Many of my posts have been about AHA moments, about some realization or another that I've come to. This is not one of those. This is more about how much I don't know.
Parenthood is overwhelming. Scary even! As cliche as it sounds, it would be a hell of a lot easier if kids came with instruction manuals.....but they don't, so as parents we are left to try to figure out what's best for our kids. That's a huge task! Daunting, terrifying, ridiculous!
My family is going through some major transitions right now, and in the middle are our 3 amigos. 7, almost 5, and 2 --so young to have to deal with their parents issues, right?
One dilemma is: do we move or do we stay? Matt and I feel as though moving intown would make us happier and allow us to be more accepted. But staying where we are would allow the boys to remain near their friends, cousins, and grandparents, not to mention staying at their award winning school--all the things that would serve as a source of security during this transition!
Another decision is whether to keep our family under one roof or separate. Would it traumatize the boys more to have their parents live physically apart? Or to have us live together but lead completely separate lives?
And the big issue in our home right now is how much we should (or should not) be going out. While Matt and I have been dividing up our time on the weekends to go out with our friends, we obviously want to make sure the kids are ok! I feel like it we lived apart and had 50/50 custody, no one would question what we did while we didnt have the kids. So does it make a difference since we're still under one roof? If the parents are happy will the children automatically be happy? Or do we need to put the wants of the kids before our own?
I wish it weren't so hard to know. And I realize that there isn't a one size fits all approach......if there was, I'm sure that parenting manual would have been written long ago!
In any case, please bear with us as we try to navigate this wind-y road. I'm sure we'll royally screw up some things along the way ..... hopefully not too much. And if you have advice, please offer it! We have no clue what we're doing. I can't believe they actually let us take these babies home from the hospital--what were they thinking??
Monday, February 13, 2012
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Shades of Gray (The Kinsey Scale)
I've had an idea to write about the Kinsey Scale for several weeks now. #1, it's fascinating.....#2, I've talked about it with several friends and promised them I'd blog about it....and #3, many more friends have said they were unfamiliar with it. Allow me to shed some light.
From Wikipedia: "The Kinsey scale, also called the Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale,[1] attempts to describe a person's sexual history or episodes of his or her sexual activity at a given time. It uses a scale from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to 6, meaning exclusively homosexual. In both the Male and Female volumes of the Kinsey Reports, an additional grade, listed as "X", was used for asexuality.[2][3] It was first published in Sexual Behavior in the Human Male (1948) by Alfred Kinsey, Wardell Pomeroy and others, and was also prominent in the complementary work Sexual Behavior in the Human Female (1953). Numbers between 1 and 5 indicate bisexuality."
The first time I heard about this spectrum, I thought "DUH!". Sexuality is definitely not a black and white issue. This scale makes perfect sense; the the cool thing about it is the fluidity of it -- because it's supposed to describe someone's sexuality at any given time. It allows for change!
So, here it is, the infamous Kinsey Scale :)
And here is a description of what the numbers mean:
| Rating | Description |
|---|---|
| 0 | Exclusively heterosexual |
| 1 | Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual |
| 2 | Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual |
| 3 | Equally heterosexual and homosexual |
| 4 | Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual |
| 5 | Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual |
| 6 | Exclusively homosexual |
I challenge all of you to look at the scale, all the shades of gray, and be truthful with yourself about where you fall on the spectrum (psst....it's OK, I won't ask you to share your number). And even if you consider yourself ONLY at one end or the other, I challenge you to understand that not everyone is.
So where am I? Usually a 2 or 3. There are people that can tip my scale though, for sure. If I were in the presence of George Clooney, I'd damn near be a 0! Madonna on the other hand? ;)
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